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Ode to Gizmo

As a little kid, the movie Gremlins was one of the movies that gave me nightmares till at least 16.  Strange enough, when I moved back to Curaçao in 2009, I got a Pekingese pup. As soon as I held him, I decided his name would be Gizmo. My little Gizmo was my child and even survived my car accident with me. Sadly enough my baby died about 4 years ago, but there’s not a day that goes by that I don’t miss him. Read More

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It’s all about the earrings, baby

A little while ago I came to find out that a friend of mine had to spin at an event that was nearby my home. Since it had been quite some time since I’ve been out out (as in: play dress up, go to a club, dance like your life depends on it and come back home at a time that usually is the time your alarm sounds) I felt like this was the party to go to. Also, I love watching him spin and it had legit been 9 months since I had gone to one of his gigs. So, this was an absolute win-win.

But when it comes to going out, there’s always one big problem:

What the hell am I going to wear?

I didn’t know what I was gonna wear and tbh, I didn’t wanna spend a whole lotta money on a new outfit. Especially since I have a birthday coming up and already spent quite some for a cute outfit. So, you know…Had to improv with whatever I had.

This plan worked until I met this incredible lady, named Maartje at the nailstudio. We had seen each other a couple of times before, but it was only recently that we had a full on convo and I noticed her beautiful earrings. Turns out she made them herself.

Earrings? Handmade? Handmade statement earrings?

Sold. I immediately knew I needed a pair of earrings from her. We linked up thru IG immediately to make the magic happen. I didn’t have much requirements, as long as they’re big, bold and made with passion! That’s all I wanted. And she came thru.

And so to let the focus stay on the earrings, we chose to go for an all black outfit. Let it all be about the earrings, baby.

How to detect the small minded people in your life

If you’re reading this, you’re probably someone who aspires to achieve greater things (I mean, that is the whole point of my blog). You might be dreaming about becoming the first lawyer in your family, starting your own business or perhaps moving to a foreign country. Go you for wanting bigger things in life. But life wouldn’t be life if you didn’t have people frowning upon your greater dreams and desires. Allow me to introduce you to the small-minded people in your life. You might have one of them, maybe a couple of them…Hell, maybe even a bunch of them! I dunno. And it could be that you have no idea you’re surrounded by them either. Hopefully after reading this you’ll gain insight and will be able to detect those people.

They’re judgmental

They have their opinion locked and loaded. Of course we all have an opinion and of course every now and then we all judge others.

Let him who is without sin cast the first stone.

Or something like that. However, small-minded people are quicker than the average to pass a judgment. They’re clouded by their own opinions as how things oughta be and actually believe anyone doing different must be a fool.

They stay in their comfort zone

Small-minded people won’t try new things easily as they are quick to assume. They assume they can’t dance. They assume they don’t like steak. They assume you will. They will assume a whole lotta, without actually trying. In order to grow, one must leave their comfort zone and try to do the unknown.  Sadly enough, they will stay in their safe bubble. But that’s because…

They believe to know everything

Since they believe their opinion is factual, they believe they must be right and therefore have no knowledge to gain. According to them they have reached their peak in knowledge. What could you possibly teach a know-it-all? And you best believe they enjoy showing you they know it all.

There’s no reasoning

I find this the most aggravating traits, because more than often have I found myself talking to people about my findings and have them persisting they’re right. As in there’s no way in hell they could be wrong. How dare I imply such a thing.? As matter of fact, how dare I possibly start a discussion? They know, therefore it is right. Part of this trait is that they probably won’t even listen to what you have to say. If they do, it’s only so they can reply and prove you that they’re right.

Salty Sally or Stanley

As you might have been able to tell already, small minded people are quite habitual. They will hold on to what has been taught to them (once upon a time, when they were still flexible), to what they know and what they do. Even if it’s hurting them. They might be in a ditch, but they’ll stay there. Because trying new things (that could be possibly help them) is not what they do. No ma’am. They prefer remaining salty, rather than trying things that could change their lives and, God forbid, make them happier!

Steve Harvey Quote on Big Dreams & Small Minded People

Did a particular name or two (please don’t let it be three or more) popped in your head while reading this, then chances are that these people are the small-minded individuals in your life who disapprove your next crazy idea and will talk you out of it. Chances are that these are people are rather close to you as well and not to be ditched. Though, in all honesty if you… Do so. But if you can’t or you’re not ready to take that step, just don’t share your wild ideas and just execute these ideas! Don’t give the small-minded people the chance to discourage you and get in your way of following your dreams. There are plenty of open-minded people rooting for you.

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15 Quotes to live your best life

Mondays are not (yet) my favorite days. I feel heavy, tired and just absolutely…BLEH. But reading inspirational quotes definitely can cause my mood to shift. Here are some quotes to help shift your mood and start living your best life!

1. “My mission in life is not merely to survive, but to thrive; and to do so with some passion, some compassion, some humor, and some style.” —Maya Angelou

2. “If you really want to do something, you’ll find a way. If you don’t, you’ll find an excuse.”-Jim Rohn

3. “The best thing you can do with your life is to tackle the motherfucking shit out of it.” – Cheryl Strayed

4. “Your time is limited, don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma, which is living the result of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of other’s opinion drowned your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition, they somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.”-Steve Jobs

Inspirational quote by Oprah Winfrey

6. “We have to live life with a sense of urgency so not a minute is wasted.” – Les Brown

7. “I enjoy life when things are happening. I don’t care if it’s good things or bad things. That means you’re alive.” —Joan Rivers

8. “How am I going to live today in order to create the tomorrow I’m committed to?” – Tony Robbins

9. “Your life is your story. Write it well. Edit it often.” – Lisa Nichols

11. “If you don’t take control over your time and over your life, other people will gobble it up.” – Michelle Obama

12. “People who are scared don’t live life.” – ASAP Ferg

13. “The most important thing is to enjoy your life—to be happy—it’s all that matters. – Audrey Hepburn

14. “The life in front of you is much more important than the life behind you.” – Joel Osteen

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15 Inspirational quotes by Gary Vaynerchuk

Gary Vaynerchuk is as he’d like to call himself a pure bread entrepreneur.  From the young age of four he started his first business selling flowers to people that he literally plucked from their own garden and has been running several successful businesses ever since.

If you have been following me, you’ll prolly well aware that I listen to Gary Vee’s podcast almost on a daily base. Why? Because he’s no bullshitter. He tells you everything you don’t wanna hear, but what you need to hear. Whenever I listen to him, I feel like I’m literally being called out on my bullshit and need to step my game up. That’s why I’m sharing some of my favorite quotes so you too can step your game up and reach your full potential.

1. “Every second you spend thinking about what somebody else has, is taking away from the time that you can create something for yourself.”
2. “Your individual truth of the moment is what will work.”
3. “People are so hungry for short term affirmation that they’re willing to undermine their long term success.”
4. “Letting somebody else dictate your life is immediate unhappiness.”
Inspirational quote by Gary Vaynerchuck on insecurity6. “Oh…You have time…You just picked something else.”
7. “If you’re scared of other people’s opinions…Fuck up on purpose. Then everyone thinks you suck shit and it will all be upside.”
8. “No matter what you call me on, you suck at something else.”
9. “Everyone has bad days and everyone has bad moments, but it’s how you handle them that matters most. Even champions lose rounds.”
Inspirational self love quote by Gary Vaynerchuck on iamanalfa.com11. “99,9% of people that judge you or have opinions on you, have no fucking idea what the fuck is actually happening in your life.”
12. “All that ambition should be equally balanced with patience.”
13. “Whose permission are you waiting for?”
14. “Live your fucking life and tune out everyone else. Stop fronting and start living.”
Inspirational self love quote by Gary Vaynerchuck

You heard the man. Even though I’m shooting myself in the foot here, reading isn’t enough to get the job done! Go on and make it happen.

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The 3 ugly truths about following your dreams

Follow your dreams! Turn your passion into a job. Live the life you dream of! This is what most motivational speakers or writers talk about. Including me.

My whole purpose of my blog is too inspire individuals to turn their dreams into reality. I want you to fulfill your wildest dreams, while becoming the best version of yourself! But I also want to keep it real with you. Which is why I wanna talk about the things no one talk about when it comes to following your dreams.

It can get lonely

You have decided to break free from the mold and go against the majority. Congratulations! You have taken the step 99% is afraid to take.

But now you’re on your journey on your own.

Your friends and family are discouraging you. They don’t understand the sacrifices you have to make in order to live your dreams. The club nights out; you’re choosing to miss out so you can wake up bright and early and put in the work. The social gathering you’re skipping to meet your deadline. The shopping trip you aren’t joining, because you want to invest your money in your dreams. All this might even cause you to lose friends and some family might become distant.
As discouraging this may seem, trust me it’s also a blessing. It will allow you to get comfortable with being alone and filter out “the real ones”. Who will stick by you through your journey, despite your physical absence? Who are the family and friends that support you and respect your grind? These are the ones who will be with you at the finish line.

It doesn’t happen overnight

Jeffree Star? One of my favorite make-up guru’s who now earns multi-millions per year? He only struggled with his music career for years, worked at MAC and put in all his savings to create his make-up empire to afford all the Gucci and Prada he wears now.

You know Twitter? The platform Mr. Donald Trump overuses as his ventmachine? It only took Twitter about 8 years to actually become Twitter.

Gary Vaynerchuck? The entrepreneur you can’t unsee even if you wanted to? He started his own Wine Library TV at the age of 30, after he had already been running his father’s business for nearly a decade, working 20 hours a day for years to become the overnight success people claim him to be 10 years later.

Our favorite Colonel? Colonel Sanders who brought life to KFC? It only took him multiple failures to become an overnight success at the age of 56. Badabing, badaboom. Just like that.


Iceberg illusion image. the reality of success


Ladies and gentlemen, you have just witnessed a couple of examples of “The Iceberg Illusion”. Where people only see the success, but don’t see what lies beneath the surface. We didn’t witness the hours that were put to reach this kinda success. We don’t know what kinda sacrifices were made in order for these companies to be a hit.
All we see are the results. The millions they earn. The flashy lives they live. The multiple businesses they own. And we want those results too. Hell, I want those results! Rather sooner than later. We want it today. This isn’t how it works, tho. Many of us believe that not reaching these results overnight, means we have failed and quit. I know, I did.

We achieve our dreams by being consistent. By being persistent. By keeping in mind our dreams are long-term goals and therefore can’t be reached in short-term periods. In the wise words of Dwayne “The Rock” Johnson: “Success isn’t overnight. It’s when everyday you get a little better than the day before. It all adds up.”

There’s no infinite inspiration

You know that pumped feeling you have when you get an idea? The energy flowing through your body. Your mind does overtime. Don’t you love that inspired feeling?

Hate to break it to you; it’s not going to last.


Quote from Jack London about inspiration

Another reason why many people give up. Of course having inspiration is wonderful, but it’s a momentum. It will fade away. These are some of the hardest moments, because how does one go on without inspiration? The key is to constantly be re-inspired. In “The subtle art of not giving a fuck” Mark Manson talks about inspiration being an endless loop. Actually he talks about motivation being an endless loop, but since inspiration is part of it I think it’s still applicable. It’s:

Inspiration → Motivation → Action → Inspiration → Motivation → Action → Inspiration → Motivation → Action etc.

As you can tell in order to stay inspired, taking action is required.

I know this might appear very demotivating. But if you still wanna follow through on your dreams, despite knowing these truths? Good! I like your determination. Keep this up and we will reach our wildest dreams.

January in lettered tiles

January: looking back

To all those who experienced January as a long ass year, congratulations! You’ve made it to February!

As you might have known, I had some goals set for last month. Phew, where to begin?

24 Books goal

Well for starters, I didn’t manage to read two books last month. I did manage however to finishLittle Black Book by Otegha Uwagba one, which I also wrote about. Currently reading book #2: The little black book by Otegha Uwagba. In all honesty, had it been in English, I’d finished long time gone. It’s not the most complicated or thickest book. I just have a harder time getting through books written in Dutch. But we’re still only in February! Can I still reach the 24 books by the end of 2019? We’ll see…

How did it go with the working out, you ask?

*Scratches head*

I haven’t been on the mat for a week…Yes, today it has been a week. Which means I haven’t done yoga nor any other exercises for a week. Meaning, the muscles are shrinking bit by bit again. I will have to say that I had a full-on cardio session when I attended a live performance by my favorite band. My calves and thighs are still burning as we speak. But…That doesn’t entirely count as exercising, so…We haven’t met our work-out goal. Will we get back on the mat soon? Bet your ass I will. Check my Instagram story tomorrow.

Moving on to the financial goal

Let me get really candid on this one: I gave my savings to Drake. There. Remember when I said that I wasn’t meeting my saving goals? Apparently, I did a better job than I anticipated, because I had put enough money on the side to be able to buy Drake tickets. But those were my savings that I used, while the tickets belonged in category “wants and wishes”. In my defense, he didn’t give me much time to prepare! He literally announced his dates 2 weeks ago and the ticket sales started a week afterwards. I mean…Yes, I know. I’m making up excuses. Sigh…In better news; I did make it to week 5 of the 52 week savings challenge!

Looking back on January, I know that up till week 4 I was doing better than I anticipated. I did mess up on the final week of January on every goal. I am willing to admit this and know to meet my goals, I have to do better. Cut the excuses and go for it.

For February I don’t have any other goals I wish to reach other than the ones I mentioned before. I will get more specific on my savings goal for February; which I have set on €400.

How did your first weeks of 2019 go?
Have you been able to meet the goals you have set?
What are your goals for February?

45 Eye-opening quotes from “The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A Fuck”

For this year, one of my goals is to read at least 24 books. Which basically means reading 2 books per month. The first book I chose to read this year was in line with one of my other goals: The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck by Mark Manson.

The reason I chose this book is because -get ready for the cliché- I really want to achieve bigger things in life. However, the thoughts of these things I wish to achieve, in combination with social media immediately get me overwhelmed, anxious and depressed. In that order. To the point that I’ll just have a glass of wine and hide in bed instead.

And all because I have too much fucks to give.

In all honesty, I hadn’t read any reviews on this book and actually thought it would be another self-help book that would tell me how capable I am of achieving marvelous things in life as long as I cared less about what people think. Boy, was I wrong. Is it a self-help book? Yes. But was it gonna tell me how capable I am and how special I am? Nope! It did everything but that and I loved the book for it.

It was brutally honest. It was confrontational and at times even painful. But it was necessary. Necessary to actually realize what are the things that really matter in life. What are the things I should give a fuck about? Here are 45 of, what I experienced to be, some of the most eye-opening quotes from the book.

1. Self-improvement and success often occur together. But that doesn’t necessarily mean they are the same thing.

2. Conventional life advice (…) is actually focusing on what you lack. It lasers in on what you perceive your personal shortcomings and failures to already be, and then emphasizes them for you.

3. The world is constantly telling you that path to a better life is more (…) You are constantly bombarded with messages to give a fuck about everything all the time (…) Why? My guess: because giving a fuck about more is good for business.

4. The problem to giving too many fucks is bad for your mental health. It causes you to be overly attached to the superficial and the fake.

5. Because there’s an infinite amount of things we can now see or know, there are also infinite number of ways we can discover that we don’t measure up.

6. Wanting positive experience is a negative experience; accepting negative experience is a positive experience.

7. Everything worthwhile in life is won through surmounting the associated negative experience.

8. To try to avoid pain is to give too many fucks about pain.

quote #9 from the subtle art of not giving a fuck

10. If you go around giving a fuck about everything and everyone without conscious thought or choice-well then you’re going to get fucked.

11. Not giving a fuck does not mean being indifferent; it means being comfortable with being different.

12. You can’t be an important and life-changing presence for some people without also being a joke and an embarrassment to others.

13. If you find yourself consistently giving too many fucks about trivial shit that bothers you, chances are you don’t have much going on in your real life to give a legitimate fuck about. And that’s your real problem.

14. There’s no value in suffering when it’s done without purpose.

15. The emotional pain of rejection or failure teaches us how to avoid making the same mistakes in the future. And this is what is so dangerous about a society that coddles itself (…) we lose the benefits of experiencing healthy doses of pain, a loss that disconnects us from the reality of the world around us.

16. The secret sauce is in the solving of the problems, not in not having problems in the first place.

17. True happiness occurs only when you find the problems you enjoy having and enjoy solving.

18. Negative emotions are a call to action. When you feel them, you are supposed to do something.

quote nr.19 from the subtle art of not giving a fuck

20. People who feel entitled view every occurrence in their life as either an affirmation of, or a threat to, their own greatness.

21. But our attention is limited. There’s no way we can process the tidal waves of information flowing past us constantly. Therefore, the only zeroes and ones that break through and catch our attention are the truly exceptional pieces of information (…) This flood of extreme information has conditioned us to believe that exceptionalism is the new normal (…) the deluge of exceptional information drives us to feel pretty damn insecure and desperate.

22. The rare people who do become truly exceptional at something do so not because they believe they’re exceptional. On the contrary, they become amazing because they’re obsessed with improvement. And that obsession (…) stems from an unerring belief that they are, in fact, not great at all.

23. Everything we think and feel about a situation ultimately comes back to how valuable we perceive it to be.

24. When we force ourselves to stay positive it all times, we deny the existence of life’s problems. And when we deny our problems, we rob ourselves of the chance to solve them and generate happiness.

25. What are the values that you prioritize above everything else, and that therefore influence your decision-making more than anything else?

26. (…) Self-improvement is really about prioritizing better values, choosing better things to give a fuck about.

27. Often the only difference between a problem being painful or being powerful is a sense that we chose it, and that we are responsible for it.

28. We don’t always control what happens to us. But we always control how we interpret what happens to us, as well as how we respond.

29. Nobody is ever responsible for your unhappiness, but you.

30. Taking responsibilities for our problems is far more important, because that where the real learning comes from.

quote nr. 31 from the subtle art of not giving a fuck

32. Certainty is the enemy of growth.

33. The man who believes he knows everything learns nothing.

34. There’s a certain comfort that comes with knowing how you fit in the world. Anything that shakes up that comfort – even if it could potentially make your life better- is inherently scary.

35. Improvement at anything is based on thousands of tiny failures, and the magnitude of your success is based on how many times you’ve failed at something.

36. We can be truly successful only at something we’re willing to fail at.

37. We need some sort of existential crisis to take an objective look at how we’ve been deriving our meaning in our life, and then consider a changing course.

38. Entitled people (…) avoid rejecting anything because doing so make them or someone else feel bad.

39. People with strong boundaries are not afraid of a temper tantrum, an argument, or getting hurt.

40. Conflict is not only normal, then; it’s absolutely necessary for the maintenance of a healthy relationship.

41. Pursuing a breadth of experience denies us the opportunity to experience the rewards of depth of experience.

42. Commitment allows you to focus intently on a few highly important goals and achieve a greater degree of success than you otherwise would.

43. But depth is where the gold is buried. And you have to stay committed to something and go deep to dig it up.

44. Our culture today confuses great attention and great success, assuming them to be the same thing.

fear of death quote by Mark Twain from the subtle art of not giving a fuck

Without a lie, I was so fascinated by the book that I bought my friend one as well. And I believe anyone who is ready to make changes in their life should read it. Intrigued? Get your book here.

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Weekly report: 2-3

Welcome to the belated weekly report of week 2 and 3! As of week 1 I pledged to share the progress of my goals with you. Now that we finished week 3, let’s see how that has gone.

Exercise 2-3 times per week

With pride I can say, I nailed it and failed it! The goal for January is 2-3 times per week, the long-term goal for 2019 is every day. Hence I was hella proud of myself when in week 2 I marked Friday as day my fifth day of exercise. For the weekend I intended to d extended yoga sessions, but I got lazy.

This laziness stretched itself along to week 3. I literally didn’t do one bit of exercising for week 3. And it was noticeable. At least for myself. I was less energetic and also a lot more on edge. Because to be frank: yoga has been doing great things for my mental state. Plus: a bitch is almost able to reach her toes again!

Read 2 books this month

One thing I have been learning during this goal setting progress is that I have to work on my energy management.

I started reading so well! I was reading a chapter per day. But in week 2 I just couldn’t get passed chapter 6. And it had nothing to do with the book being boring. Au contraire, it’s a great book! However, my energy wasn’t up to taking me further than one page in the afternoon. And fact is, we all are different kinds of people. You have the early birds, the afternooners and the night owls. I am an early bird and can get most done in the morning. Reading is one of them. But by 12-1 pm issa wrap. I get slow, I get tired and I’m less focused. Therefore, I really need to make sure to get my reading done in the mornings on the bus and drop other unimportant activities (read: endless scrolling and whatsapp) during the commute.

But as I realized I only have only 10 more days left before January was over, I realized I could still do it as long as I prioritized properly. Therefore the time off in week 3 was spent reading. Which was mostly during the weekend. It included saying no to a couple of events I wanted to attend, but hey…Priorities. And so, book 1 has been successfully finished. Without a lie, I think this book has to be one of the most eye-opening book I have read.

Apply the 50-30-20 rule

“Hi, my name is Joey and next to procrastinating, I also like to spend money on ordering food.”

* Takes off bra, because she’s getting very uncomfortable.*

Okay, so…This one is a 50-40-10. I did manage to put aside the 50 percent for my fixed costs. As for the 30-20. Still not so much…And it’s exactly what I said; I spend way too much money on ordering food. I very much dislike cooking and love the comfort of ordering food. Sadly enough, this clashes with my goal. Clear to say what adjustments to make this week…Ugh.

On the bright side; the 52-week challenge is going well! And some of my friends have also joined me!

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Concerning the posting on my blog 2 times per week…It all comes down to prioritizing. I continue to getting my priorities mixed up, which causes me to put energy in the wrong things. The worst part is, I’m fully aware that no one is responsible for this but me. However, this is also the most important part as I am aware.

For week 4 I am:

  •  Getting back on the mat
  • Reading Little Black Book
  • Fucking sticking to what my priorities are
  • Apparently cooking more, even when I don’t wanna
  • Posting twice this week on my own blog and once on Melaninfinity Magazine

How are your goals for 2019 going thus far?

14 Quotes to motivate your grind

We have entered a new week! And while many of us are grateful and consider the new week a blessing, some of us can be feeling quite (read: very) demotivated.  Which is probably why  you’re reading this in the first place. You might be reading this whilst still in bed, thinking why on earth you would leave your comfortable nest, get up and get to work?

So here are 14 quotes by some people who have quite the experience in putting in the work and who can possibly motivate you to get up and grind!

  1. “There’s no magic to achievement. It’s really about hard work, choices and persistence.” – Michelle Obama
  2. “It’s hard to beat a person who never gives up.” – Babe Ruth
  3. “I am not lucky. You know what I am? I am smart, I am talented, I take advantage of the opportunities that come to my way and I work really, really hard. Don’t call me lucky. Call me a badass”. – Shonda Rhimes
  4. “I’m gonna go hard no matter what because I gotta feed my family, and I gotta feed myself.” – DJ Khaled
  5. “Nothing will work unless you do. “– Maya Angelou
  6. “Discipline is choosing between what you want now and what you want most.”– Abraham Lincoln
  7. “The key to success is to start before you are ready.” – Marie Forleo
  8. “Without hustle, talent will only carry you so far.” – Gary Vaynerchuk
  9. “I’ve heard of nothing coming from nothing, but I’ve never heard of absolutely nothing coming from hard work.” – Uzo Aduba
  10. “I find that the harder I work, the more luck I seem to have.” – Thomas Jefferson
  11. “Whenever I feel bad, I use that feeling to motivate me to work harder.” – Beyoncé
  12. “Everybody wants to be famous, but nobody wants to do the work. I live by that. You grind hard so you can play hard. At the end of the day, you put all the work in, and eventually it’ll pay off. It could be in a year, it could be in 30 years. Eventually, your hard work will pay off.” – Kevin Heart
  13. “I’ve always believed that if you put in the work, the results will come.” – Michael Jordan
  14. “I was never a natural. I got there in the end, because I did believe that if you work hard enough, then you can achieve a lot.” – Victoria Beckham


With that said, I want to wish you a good day and an even better week! Make shit happen!


Weekly report: 1

Hello there my fellow ALFa’s! Welcome to my first weekly report.

The reason I have chosen to do this weekly report is, because just like any year I have set goals for myself. But I often slack on my goals and a few months ago, I realized why: I don’t have anyone really keeping me accountable on my goals.

I know, no one should have to hold me accountable for my goals. After all they are my goals. True. However, some people still need an accountabillibuddy as an extra push. It’s like having a gymbuddy. Having a gymbuddy means having a spotter or whatever it’s called, have someone to share the journey with and someone who will hold you accountable for slacking. Slack frequently and you lose credibility.

It is for that reason that I choose to do this report. It allows me to share my journey and being held accountable by you, my readers. And hopefully; I’ll be able to even inspire some of you.

Now, that doesn’t mean that I will be sharing all of my goals as I have a whole list of them; for this month, this year and for the next five years. I still believe that some should remain unsaid and be achieved in silence. But sharing some of them won’t hurt.

For now let’s just look at the goals that I have set for January.

Exercise 2-3 times per week

To say that my physique hasn’t been what it used to be, to me is an understatement. I have gained more weight than I would like to admit, I run out of breath when walking up the stairs and I can’t even reach my toes without being sore for at least 2 days. While I used to dance 2-3 hours straight per day and drop in a split as if it was nothing.

So, my first intention was to start subscribe at the Amsterdam Dance Centre, as they offer the classes that speak to me most. It would be a great way to work on my condition and physique at the same time. Not to mention, it is only 20 minutes away from work.

But y’know, I splurged a little during the holiday season. So, I had to cut back on some expenses for this month. This, however, shouldn’t be a reason to change the goal. As the saying goes:

“Change the plan, never the goal.”

Since I already wake up extra early, I figured I could do yoga at home before work. And so, I did. For the last 5 days I spent 15-25 minutes for a little yoga. Guess who got a real slap of reality when she did a simple forward fold? But that’s okay. The most important thing is that we started and we did reach the goal of exercising 2-3 times per week.

Read 2 books this month

Last year, I must have bought at least 8 to 10 books, of which all I’ve started reading. But none I’ve actually finished. So, this year we will read those books (and perhaps even discuss some of the findings, if y’all would like).

This month, I chose to start with “The subtle art of not giving a fuck” by Mark Manson. I chose this book as I believe it fits well to one of my resolutions of 2019: “Less giving a fuck.” To finish this book in 2 weeks, I would have to read one chapter per day. Not gonna lie, this controversial book makes it very easy to keep reading. My preferred times to read are during my daily commute. Headphones on, Beyoncé on, let’s read.

Apply the 50-30-20 budgeting rule

Que idiotic dance while reading this: “I can’t save for shit.”

I swear, one of my biggest weaknesses is handling money. Last year was the first time I managed to save for my vacation and it genuinely was one of my biggest accomplishments. This year, I want to do more and save more.

Not sure how I got to the 50-30-20 rule, but reading about it on The Balance certainly was an eye opener and something I wish to apply. Scratch that. Something I need to apply.

50-30-20 rule by

But in week 1 failed to apply. Not gonna make any excuses, but like I said before: I splurged a little (too much) during the holidays and still had rent to pay. So let’s just say this week was more of a…80-
20 rule. Of which the 20 was for my wishes a.k.a ordering takeout.


But(!!!) I also started a 52-week savings challenge with my mother and sister. This, I did accomplish to do.

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As for posting on my own blog 2 times per week. After my “Less/More” post, you have now reached post #2 for the week.  I think it’s safe to say, I’m on the right track.

How is the first of the new year going for you so far?