In many guides to success it is stated that the best way to learn is by reading and analyzing others who are successful in your field. So, last week I spent hours and hours clicking on succesful style-/fashion-bloggers, taking notes on what makes their feed so interesting. I read their blogs, their posts on Instagram, even looked into their educational background. And let me tell you, it was one of the most demotivating things I have ever done.
By the looks of my notes as to what I could apply to make my blog as interesting as theirs, chances of being as interesting theirs was…Meh.
Now you may be wondering why, so I’ll give you a little insight on my notes as to what it takes to be a successful style-/fashionblogger.
Now that we went over the points of what it takes, let me give you a quick summary as to why I don’t fit the mold. Warning: short self pity party ahead.
I work 2 non-glamorous jobs; one that includes getting dirty and the other one is “at home”. My shopping habit is therefore reduced to mostly practical shopping. I travel little to nothing (unless you consider going from Haarlem to The Hague and Rotterdam, travel). My photos are taken with an outdated camera. And I sure as hell don’t have a model-like appearance; no endless long legs, no flawless skin, no luscious long hair, no petite frame.
All by all, I just felt like taking a pill of Fukitol. And for a minute I did. I wallowed in self pity and I let the evil insecurity monster scare me.
But only for a minute.
‘Cause why fit in if I was born to stand out? I don’t fit the mold of your average style-/fashion-blogger. And you know what, that’s okay. I am not gonna apologize for not living like they do. I am me. And that’s what makes this blog much more than just a style-/fashion blog, it’s more personal. It shows my journey starting as a small blogger, wanting to become bigger by uniting more Antilleans that love fashion by checking off the checklist one point at a time.
So my dear ALFa, if at any moment you are doubting your capacity of being able to achieve what you want, because you are different: Don’t you dare. You’re difference is what makes YOU. You will achieve your goal, but in your own way.
To help yourself, you must be yourself. Be the best you can be.- Dave Pelzer